Today I am thankful that a tradition is something that can be made new every year. Repeating rituals again and again can be comforting and definitely something to look forward to as a child. However, as an adult, associating the memories of a lost loved one with a traditional event can be so painful. Due to that loved one's absence, creating a different ritual is sometimes necessary to get past the happier traditions of days gone by that are now just sad.
My mom loved every aspect of Thanksgiving dinner--the turkey and all the trimmings as well as family gathered at her table. Special recipes were reserved and only prepared for this November holiday. She looked forward to the lemon-lime gelatin salad and cranberry relish that complimented the flavor of the turkey and dressing so well.
Last year, as the Thanksgiving Day holiday came up so quickly following Mom's death, I couldn't bear to make her favorite dishes without her there to enjoy them, and thus a new plan was made.
We made reservations at a country club for their Thanksgiving buffet and enjoyed all the festive foods without the cooking and clean up. I watched the Thanksgiving Day parade on television for the first time ever, leisurely got ready to go, and had a most enjoyable time with my family. We had such a good time, that we are planning to do the same outing again this year, which now makes it a tradition.
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